How I Change Habit on 2019 and 4 lesson I take from it

I finally can change some of my habit on 2019.

The thing I realize about 2019 was… “I DID IT!”

Radjin means diligent from bahasa Indonesia. Sounds right to describe me. LOL.

Not all my targets finally done. I still on progress with my thesis proposal but I can survive this year with lots of new things. I did it, I can change my habit into a more positive way.

The thing that everyone can see is my weight and skin changes.

Yes, I finally have a better relation with my body. I can say that I now can live healthier that I was on 2018.

How I can really did it? Here are 4 lesson I take from my experience:

Untukku, yang sedang belajar untuk menjadi tidak sempurna.

Dulu sekali, dua tahun lalu aku pernah menulis sebuah artikel yang menceritakan keresahanku sebagai seorang mahasiswa Psikologi. Inti tulisannya bahwa mahasiswa atau siapapun yang sedang mendalami Psikologi, punya hak untuk merasa tidak baik-baik saja.

Beberapa hari yang lalu, ada sebuah kejadian yang memaksaku untuk berpikir ulang; tentang konsep diri dan berbagai aturan yang aku buat sendiri. Aku melakukan sebuah kesalahan yang menurut standarku, sangat keterlaluan.

We need someone to remind about mental health

I’ve learned a lot how our mental health could affect our physical health.

But I realized that I need someone to remind me about it. 

In one moment I thought I was okay, or at least just get more tension than usual but still okay. Now I realize I’m not that okay mentally.
Kinda stressed.

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Been a vey long time didn’t write in a blog feels awkward for me. I still write, but only for answering consultation with clients and research.

I used to talk a lot with myself, contemplating through writings. But now I realise it feels strange to do this again. Now let me try to write everything out – to talk about what happens lately and how it affects my mental health:

Redefining My Kind of Therapy

I used to write whenever I feel not okay; when I feel so anxious, sad, angry, disappointed.

Everything that bother and make me restless. I also used to write whenever I feel so happy or did some achievement; I thought at that time, I need to save it digitally so that I can re-read it everytime.

I started to write in my diary when I was in elementary school. It was a A6- size striped book with the padlock. I write it almost every day.

I still remember a day when my mom read my diary. I was upset because it’s my privacy. At the end, she never touched my diary and respect it as my privacy.

One anxious night; The truth about being an overthinker

“Yang ditunggu, yang diharap, biarkanlah semesta bekerja untukmu.”

– Rehat, Kunto Aji.

I had gloomy days several days ago. I could easily blame the hormones (because it’s my menstrual cycle), but I know it’s just a trigger.

I can be so anxious when I think too much.
And here goes the time. After what I’ve written on my post about new year resolution, I think that was a challenge I need to face.

One Tuesday night, I got a sudden sadness “attack”. I already felt so tired but also need to do lots of stuff that time. Then comes my anxiety, which suddenly changed into a “sadness attack”. I cried all night. It was hard for me to sleep because I couldn’t stop crying that time.
I felt so sad and find nobody because it was midnight.