Kesalahan yang Mendewasakan: Bisakah Memaafkan Kesalahan Sendiri?

“Aku pernah ngelakuin kesalahan besar dan bikin orang sakit hati,” kataku pada seorang teman di hari Jumat minggu ini. | Photo by Daniel Tafjord on Unsplash

Setelah itu aku mulai menceritakan pengalaman itu padanya.

Sebuah pengalaman yang bagiku termasuk dalam pelanggaran besar atas prinsip yang aku yakini sendiri, dua tahun lalu. Terlepas dari apa dan bagaimana sebabnya, tindakanku saat itu adalah sesuatu yang sulit untuk aku maafkan sendiri.

“Kok bisa ya, kamu santai banget cerita ini.” Kata temanku setelah cukup lama kami berbincang.

Sticky Notes.

Image source here.

Have you ever heard about labeling theory?

I got it when I was on Social Psychology class. 

It is said that labeling means defining someone's behavior as right or wrong based on their origin (groups,environment, family, and friends). Not because they are truly right or wrong. One wrong thing that was done by a person, could be defined as right thing if it's done by another person.

See?

Who likes being labeled?

So let's put on someone else's shoes before judging.

 I always believe that life is about learning, forgiving, loving and helping each other.

Also, life is about growing up.

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I really need a shoulder to lean on.

Nisrina.

Trusting your feeling.

“It is okay to be sad, happy, angry, scared, worried, doubtful, guilty, disappointed, hate and other emotion. Even, it is okay to be confused with what you felt. You are a human, so it is natural to have emotions (positive and negative). 

The point is not about eliminating them. It is about realizing and accepting them. Yes, just realize and release everything that hold you back. 

Try to recognize and remember the reason behind your emotion. Forgive yourself, forgive your past. Make them your best teacher in life. 
If you can’t do this alone, it is okay to ask people for help. Since the mind is the key of our life, it is important to keep ours positive and “healthy”. 
Because being healthy is not just about the body, but also about mind itself.”

– Lesson learned I got from the Basic Individual Intervention class: Humanistic perspective.

Hugs and kisses,
Nisrina.

Persona

I’d just slapped. Not literally, hahaha.

Yesterday was a sunny afternoon – after raining for several days – when I met my high-school best friend. It was a simple conversation, very simple but for me, it makes me think more. About me and this blog, my writings.

“You have changed or just growing up? I don’t know.

I thought, there’s something different about your posts (on blog). I just thought that there’s something you hide between your words. Do you make some boundaries?

What I know is that I was bored with your last writings."

Definitely, she said something which I’d questioned to my self recently. She found it. She showed me the wrong part.

Though what she said isn’t 100% true.

Book Review: Lean In

This cover is taken from Goodreads

“A feminist is someone who believes in social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.”

– Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In, page 159.

Pertama, saya ingin berterima kasih pada sepupu saya tercinta yang sudah dengan baik hati menyodorkan buku ini pada saya. Iya, ini buku pinjaman, hahaha, kalau saya pribadi, jujur masih berpikir dua kali untuk membeli buku non-fiksi setebal 200 halaman dan berbahasa Inggis. Bukan bermaksud pamer, tapi saya benar-benar salut pada diri saya karena ini adalah “buku tebal non-fiksi berbahasa Inggris” yang pertama kali saya baca sampai selesai selama kurang dari seminggu. Hahahahaha :”) Yeaaah, I’m totally feel so proud with myself.

Okay, then. Back to the book itself.

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what you need to know when you are 20 year old.

Sketched by Nisrina.

What is your definition about “being productive”?
Some people might say: doing something that earn some money.
Or doing some projects.
Or creating something new.
Or…. Anything else?
This question leads me to write this post.
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I never thought that being 20 year-old would be much complicated. 

You are no longer an adolescent. But then, it feels weird to call yourself as an adult because you are too young too be in this category. You still have to do your tasks and roles as an adolescent, plus, your new tasks and roles as an early adult. 

Enough? Not yet. 

These new tasks and new roles in society would successfully create a conflict within yourself.

between responsible and consequences.

source: somewhere but forgot the link.

Some people say that life is like riding a roller coaster: you could be on the highest, but you could be on the lowest place all of a sudden. 

But for me, life isn’t just about riding (a roller coaster).

I think, life is about how we lead the ride.

resilience is the key.

2014 is such an amazing year.

source: pinterest.com

There's ups and downs especially on this last 3 months. I learn a lot and being thankful for every moments I experienced. Alhamdulillah. 

I could say that this year is the hardest year. By the coming of 2014, I'm officially 20 year-old This is the time when I finally see what life is. Over the 19 years before, I taste that life is as sweet as candies. But not for this year. I finally could taste the bitterness of the life. But I'm not regretting it, for sure.