Perihal Berteman, Menemukan Teman, dan Menjaga Pertemanan

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“Nis, kayanya aku nggak nemu temen yang bisa ngerti aku kaya kalian dulu, deh.”
– Seorang teman, dalam percakapan melalui telepon.

Percakapan itu terjadi sekitar dua Minggu yang lalu. Percakapan yang tidak rutin terjadi antara aku sama temen deketku dari jaman SMA. By the way, temanku ini perempuan, ya. Hehe.

Seberapa sering sih punya pikiran kalau makin lama makin sulit buat dapetin temen yang beneran temen? Hahaha. Maksudku, semacam sahabat gitu buat berbagi pikiran dan perasaan, yang bisa memahami kita dan bikin kita bisa jadi diri sendiri.

Pertanyaan yang terbesit di pikiranku waktu temenku bilang gitu adalah:

“Sebenarnya yang susah itu cari orangnya, atau kita sendiri yang nggak cukup terbuka sama temen-temen baru kita?”

what you need to know when you are 20 year old.

Sketched by Nisrina.

What is your definition about “being productive”?
Some people might say: doing something that earn some money.
Or doing some projects.
Or creating something new.
Or…. Anything else?
This question leads me to write this post.
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I never thought that being 20 year-old would be much complicated. 

You are no longer an adolescent. But then, it feels weird to call yourself as an adult because you are too young too be in this category. You still have to do your tasks and roles as an adolescent, plus, your new tasks and roles as an early adult. 

Enough? Not yet. 

These new tasks and new roles in society would successfully create a conflict within yourself.